Boundaries And It's Need In Life:-

Boundaries separate a person's physical space, feelings, needs, and responsibilities from others.  Boundaries also tell other people how they can treat you – what’s acceptable for you and what isn’t. Boundaries are the foundation of healthy relationships. Without boundaries, people may take advantage of you because you haven’t set limits about how you expect to be treated. 

Why do we need boundaries? 

• Boundaries allow us to be our true selves. 

• Boundaries create a separateness that allows us to have our own feelings, make our own decisions, and know and ask for what one wants without needing to please others.

•  Boundaries are a form of self-care. 

•  Boundaries also keep us from overextending ourselves. 'You can't take on every project, work every shift, or be on every committee that you're asked to join. 

•  Boundaries mean saying "no" to things that don't align with your priorities.

•  Boundaries create realistic expectations; Whether it’s with a friend, spouse, neighbor, or boss, relationships function best when we know what’s expected.

•  When we clearly communicate our boundaries, people know how they’re expected to behave. When expectations aren't communicated and met, resentment and anger grow.

What prevents us from setting boundaries?

Now let’s explore why we fail to set boundaries even when we believe they’re important. 

• Fear: What will happen if you set a boundary? What will happen if you don’t? Is it scary to do something different? What are you actually afraid of? How likely is this to happen? By asking yourself questions like these, you can give yourself a reality check and find out if your fear is alerting you of real danger or keeping you stuck.

•  You don’t know how: If you grew up in a family without boundaries, you probably never saw anyone model or teach you healthy boundaries. Setting boundaries is a skill that can be learned. 

• Low self-worth: Some part of you feels unworthy or unlovable. Therefore, you always struggle to prove your worth by putting other people's needs before your own. You’re not used to being treated with respect, so you don’t even know what it looks like.

• Ambivalence: Ambivalence represents that you aren’t 100% convinced that boundaries will solve your problem. Some ambivalence is fine. You don't need to be 100% sure before you act.

•  People-pleasing: when you ou doesn’t want to ruffle feathers. When you don’t want to disappoint people. You’ll pretty much avoid conflict at all costs. 

Like most things, setting boundaries becomes easier with practice. It takes time to gain confidence and learn new skills. And it takes time for others to adjust to your new boundaries.

Light, Growth, and Transformation.